Although there have been infinite varieties of life forms that have evolved on Earth in the last 4 billion years, two life forms that are our male and female ancestors evolved a billion years ago. Here’s how this first sexual experience occurred according to cosmologist Dr. Brian Swimme and historian Dr. Thomas Berry in their book, The Universe Story.

            The first male organism—they call him Tristan—and the first female organism—they call her Iseult—began life in the ancient oceans. Swimme and Berry describe their chance encounter this way:

“They were cast into the marine adventure, with its traumas of starvation and of predation. Able to nourish themselves but no longer capable of dividing into daughter cells, such primal living beings made their way through life until an almost certain death ended their 3-billion-year lineage.

A slight, an ever so slight, chance existed that a Tristan cell would come upon a corresponding Iseult cell.They would brush against each other, a contact similar to so many trillions of other encounters in their oceanic adventure. But with this one, something new would awaken. Something unsuspected and powerful and intelligent, as if they had drunk a magical elixir, would enter the flow of electricity through each organism.

Suddenly the very chemistry of their cell membranes would begin to change. Interactions evoked by newly functioning segments of her DNA would restructure the molecular web of Iseult’s skin, so that an act she had never experienced or planned for would begin to take place—Tristan entering her cell wholly.”

Of course no humans were there to record this original encounter, but we all have origin stories and this one resonates with me. Dates are never exact and change as more information is gathered. Here are some additional dates I found important in The Universe Story timeline:

• 12 billion years ago, the universe begins.
• 4 billion years ago life first emerges.
• 1 billion years ago sexual reproduction evolves.
• 216 million years ago the first mammals appear.
• 30 million years ago the first apes inhabit the earth.
• 2.6 million years ago the first humans appeared.
• 200,000 years ago Archaic Homo sapiens evolved.
• 10,600 years ago first settlements in the Middle East emerged and wheat and barley were cultivated.

Needless to say, we have a long evolutionary history to embrace. In their book, Solving Modern Problems with a Stone-Age Brain, Douglas T. Kenrick, PhD and David E. Lundberg-Kenrick describe seven evolutionary challenges we must all face and embrace. They offer a visual summary as a revision of Maslow’s original Hierarchy of Human Needs which they call The New Pyramid of Human Motives:

The Seven Challenges for a Successful Life

            During the billion years of life, all organisms must embrace these challenges and they are particularly relevant beginning with our mammalian history. In their book, the Kenricks ask, “What are the fundamental problems of human existence?” They go on to share the results of their research.

“Together with a large team of researchers at more than 30 universities on five continents, we have been investigating the universal motivations faced by human beings around the globe.”

Here is a summary of their findings:

                        We must meet our basic physiological needs for shelter from the elements,

                       water, and food.

• Protect yourself from attackers and plunderers.

      Given the scarcity of resources and the ever-present possibility of starvation, there has always been competition among different groups (most often the male members) for precious real estate and resources (including access to females).

                         As the Kenricks remind us. “Our ancestors were not rugged individualists.

                       They need to band together not only to protect themselves from bands of

                       marauding bad guys but also to accomplish most of the tasks of everyday life.”

                      Some people have always been more resourceful and clever than others and

                      some were more willing to bravely defend their groups against armed marauders.

                      Those resourceful and courageous individuals won higher status and gained

                      greater respect.

                     “From the perspective of evolution by natural selection,” say the Kenricks, “this

                       step is essential. Every one of our ancestors managed to attract at least one

                       person who wanted to make with them. Not everybody in the ancient world got

                       to reproduce, though, and a reasonable percentage of men went unmated.” This

                       fact, is of major importance when understanding male desires, fears, and

                       behavior.

                     From an evolutionary perspective, we not only have to find a mate who will have

                      sex with us, but we need to hold on to our mate long enough to have a child and

                      raise the child to maturity, so they can find a mate and continue the process.

• Care for your family members.

  Unlike other animals, human males are much more involved with raising children, since human children require long-term care before they reach reproductive age.

Males and Females Are Alike and Also Different

            Males and females are alike in that they must both successfully meet the seven challenges noted above. However, there are also significant evolutionary differences. These differences first came home to me when I first met psychologist David M. Buss and read his book, The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating.  

            “If mating desires and other features of human psychology are products of our evolutionary history,” says Dr. Buss, “they should be found universally, not just in the United States.”

To test his theories, he conducted a five-year study working with collaborators from thirty-seven cultures located on six continents and five islands. All major racial groups, religious groups, and ethnic groups were represented. In all, his research team surveyed 10,047 persons world-wide.

            Dr. Buss concluded that there are actually two human natures, one male, the other female. What do women really want?  Buss found that the top three qualities that women look for in men are exactly the same as those things that men look for in women: Intelligence, kindness, and love. Then, what women want diverges from what men want.

            “Women then look at a man’s ability to protect her and her children, his capacity to provide, and his willingness to make commitment to a relationship,” says Buss.

            What do men really want?  

“A man is drawn to youth and beauty,”

says Buss.

“This  interest is not just a modern desire driven by advertising and male desire to control women [though advertisers take advantage of our evolutionary-driven desires]. It is a universal desire based on evolutionary pressures for reproductive success. Men who mated with women who were incapable of bearing children left no ancestors. Every man alive today is descended from men who did not make that mistake. Worldwide, men are drawn to younger women.”

            Note: Just because we have these evolutionary-based desires does not mean we must act on them, that they are good for us, or will make us, or the partners we desire, happy. It also does not mean they are hard-wired into our biological makeup and can’t be changed. It does mean that we must take seriously our evolutionary-based desires and listen to the ancient “whisperings within” that pull us in certain directions.

The Hazards and Blessings of Gender-Specific Health

The ancient Roman philosopher, Virgil offers a simple truth to consider.

“The greatest wealth is health.”

A modern American medical doctor, Marianne J. Legato, M.D., world-renowned cardiologist and founder of The Foundation For Gender-Specific Medicine, says,

“The premature death of men is the most important—and neglected—health issue of our time.”

Although human males, as a group, occupy more positions of power in government and business than women, it has come at a price. This was first brought home to me by psychologist Herb Goldberg, in his book 1976, The Hazards of Being Male.

“The male has paid a heavy price for his masculine ‘privilege’ and power. He is out of touch with his emotions and his body. He is playing by the rules of the male game plan and with lemming-like purpose he is destroying himself—emotionally, psychologically and physically.”

In recent years we have learned a lot more about the realities of being male.

“If it’s true that men rule the world, it comes at a heavy cost,”

says Dr. Legato.

“From conception until death, men are inherently more fragile and vulnerable than women. In virtually every society today, men die first.”

Dr. Legato offers the following facts of life:

• The male fetus is less likely to survive the womb than the female.
• Boys are six weeks behind in developmental maturity at birth compared to girls.
• Men have four times the developmental disabilities of females.
• Men suffer more severely than women from seven of the ten most common infections that human experience [Including Covid-19].
• Men are likely to experience the first ravages of coronary artery disease in their mid-thirties, a full 15 or 20 years before women.
• Twice as many men die of heart disease, the leading cause of all deaths, than do women.
• Men die by suicide 4 times more than women.
• Murder and homicide are among the top four killers of men from the time they are born until heart disease and cancers begin to claim those who survive into middle age.

Accepting the realities of our own inherent weakness and vulnerabilities instead of trying to pretend we are masters of the universe is the first step we just take to begin our own healing and recovery.

I have been writing a series of articles on the Future of Men’s Mental Health. In Part 3, “Gender-Specific Healing and Man Therapy,” I explore my own healing journey and issues that address the unique problems faced by men and how the emerging field of Gender-Specific Healing and Men’s Health is a key to the future of health care. If you’d like more information about upcoming trainings, drop me an email to Jed@MenAlive.com and put “Gender-Specific Health Training” in the subject line.

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My no-bake, healthy peanut butter bliss balls are loaded with creamy peanut butter and chocolate flavor, making them a hit with both kids and adults alike. Enjoy these as an on-the-go breakfast, wholesome snack, or healthy dessert alternative! They’re also dairy-free, vegan, gluten-free, and low in sugar, making them ideal for a variety of dietary preferences.

Indulge in my delicious no-bake peanut butter bliss balls, affectionately called “cookie dough bites” by my daughter. They taste like dessert, but are totally guilt-free and nutrient-rich! I love bliss ball recipes like this one because they come together quickly, and always satisfy my sweet tooth!

With only five simple ingredients and just ten minutes of prep time, bliss balls are a perfect option for busy days. I especially love making a huge batch at the beginning of the week, and enjoying them all week long for ultimate convenience. I find that they taste even better the next day, once they’ve had time to chill in the fridge for a while longer!

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🥘 Ingredients

My easy peanut butter bliss balls recipe calls for just 5 nutritious ingredients, all easily found in your pantry or local grocery store. Here’s what you need:

Oats: I’ve found that rolled oats work best for these kid-friendly bliss balls. I don’t recommend using oat flour or quick oats as it won’t have the same texture as whole oats, and won’t hold up as well.

Natural Peanut Butter: I use creamy peanut butter to bind all the ingredients together and add a boost of protein to these energy bites. If you don’t have peanut butter, try almond butter as a 1:1 substitute. Other nut butters (like cashew butter or a mixed nut butter) should also work in place of peanut butter, but the bites might have a slightly different consistency since some nuts create a thinner or runnier butter than others!

Dark Chocolate Chips: I prefer using dark chocolate chips for a healthier choice. These can be regular or mini chocolate chips. To keep this recipe vegan-friendly, I’ll use dairy-free chocolate chips. If you don’t need these to be vegan, then semisweet, white chocolate, or milk chocolate chips are all yummy options.

Maple Syrup: The only added sugar is natural maple syrup which gives the bliss balls a slightly sweet taste. If you don’t have maple syrup on hand, agave, raw honey, or vegan honey work.

Vanilla Extract: Pure vanilla extract brings out the richness of the chocolate. Sometimes I also add a pinch of salt to really enhance the sweetness. For a nutty flavor, try using almond extract.

🔪 How To Make Peanut Butter Bliss Balls

My vegan no bake peanut butter balls are so easy to make – they’re ready in just 3 simple steps. Let me show you how to make these healthy dessert balls:

Combine Ingredients: In a large bowl, using a wooden spoon, I start by stirring together the oats, peanut butter, chocolate chips, maple syrup, vanilla, and salt until combined.

Form The Bliss Balls: Next, I line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Taking small handfuls of the mixture, I roll them into small balls 1-2 inches in size – about the size of a golf ball or ping pong ball. I prefer to use a cookie scoop to make this step extra easy. Place each ball onto the baking sheet.

Let The Balls Set: Once rolled, I refrigerate these peanut butter snack balls for 30 minutes or until solid.

📖 Variations

I’ve perfected a few easy swaps and add-ins for when I’m looking to switch up the taste or texture a bit with these healthy kid-friendly bliss balls. There is something for any occasion! Here are my favorite variations:

Peanut Butter Protein Balls: If you want to turn these peanut butter protein bliss balls, consider adding a scoop of vegan vanilla protein powder to the batter before mixing it. You can use up to 2 scoops of protein powder, depending on the flavor of the protein powder you use. Sometimes I also add 1 tablespoon of ground chia seeds, flax seed, or hemp seeds for an extra boost of protein and healthy fats.

Chocolate Bliss Balls With Peanut Butter: For a double serving of chocolate, add a tablespoon of cacao or cocoa powder to the batter before mixing. I love the rich and indulgent flavor that this gives this recipe! I serve this as a healthy kids dessert often!

Peanut Butter Date Bliss Balls: For a sweeter flavor, I like to add a ¼ cup of Medjool dates, soaked and drained. I use a food processor when adding dates so that they are completely incorporated with the peanut butter and oats.

Sugar-Free Bliss Balls: If you want to make these no-bake peanut butter balls truly sugar-free, you can omit the maple syrup and use sugar-free chocolate. I think they still taste pretty good thanks to the natural sweetness from the vanilla and chocolate chips! If you are making these peanut butter balls for toddlers, this is a good option.

Mix-Ins: Add your favorite mix-ins to give these peanut butter energy balls some texture. I find that crushed walnuts, pecans, peanuts, sunflower seeds, and cacao nibs work really well in this recipe. My other favorites are dried fruit like cranberries, raisins, dried apricots, and shredded coconut. I also love adding spices like a pinch of sea salt, cinnamon powder, nutmeg, or pumpkin pie spice into the mixture. When making these as toddler protein balls, be mindful of the size of the nuts and dried fruit.

🍽 Serving Suggestions

While I love these healthy bliss balls with peanut butter on their own for an easy grab-and-go snack or healthy dessert, it can be so fun to get creative with other ways to serve these! Try some of these ideas:

Toppings: For a decadent dessert I love to drizzle chocolate sauce or caramel sauce (like the one on this no-bake salted caramel cheesecake) over these no bake snacks!

Ice Cream: My kids love to mix these no bake peanut butter dessert balls into tofu ice cream for a delicious treat.

Drinks: Energy balls can be found at a lot of coffee shops nowadays, so it only feels right to create those coffee shop vibes at home! I have been loving these balls with my oatmilk honey latte or iced ube latte! You can also do a creamy mixed berry smoothie alongside these protein balls for kids as an afternoon snack.

With Other Energy Bites: Make a spread of energy bites and serve these alongside my vegan protein balls, peanut butter date balls, and these homemade lara bars! I love this idea for parties and special occasions!

🫙 Storage Instructions

Room Temperature: I store these dairy free peanut butter balls in an airtight container at room temperature for up to 3 days. 

To Refrigerate: After placing in an airtight container or resealable plastic bag, I’ll store these in the fridge for maximum freshness. They’ll be good for about one week!

Freezer: I don’t recommend storing these vegan energy balls in the freezer as they won’t taste as good when defrosted.

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