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<\/figure>\n<\/div>\nA new documentary film, Sensitive Men Rising (SMR), is turning its lens to the billion men who have largely been hidden in the shadows. Thanks to the breakthrough that we now know as \u201csensory processing sensitivity\u201d (SPS) \u2014popularly known as \u201chigh sensitivity\u201c\u2014 we know men can play a pivotal role in changing the face and times of masculinity as a force for good in the world.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 According to the film\u2019s director, Will Harper, <\/p>\n
\n\u201cSensitive Men Rising, is a long overdue socially significant film that invites all of us on an emotional, educational, and life-enlightening passage. It asks us ALL to deepen our understanding of sensory processing sensitivity in men, and how it intersects with traditional and modern-day masculinity.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 The film\u2019s producer, Dr. Tracy Cooper, author of the book, Empowering the Sensitive Male Soul, <\/em>says, <\/p>\n
\n\u201cHighly Sensitive People (HSP) seem to ignore the cultural programming we are all exposed to and, instead prefer to work out original solutions.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Prior to the release of the film, June 16, 2024 (Father\u2019s Day), Dr. Cooper interviewed me about my own work with Highly Sensitive Men.<\/a><\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I also had the good fortune to meet, William Allen, author of the book, On Being a Sensitive Man, <\/em>and host of an HSP Men\u2019s Monthly Zoom Meeting. My own men\u2019s group has been meeting for 44 years now. I was excited to learn that Bill is gathering men together from all over the world. You can learn more at TheSensitiveMan.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I\u2019ve always known I was a highly sensitive boy growing up, but I never had a name for it until I read Dr. Elaine Aron\u2019s book, The Highly Sensitive Person, <\/em>originally published in 1996, with the revised and updated 25th<\/sup> Anniversary Edition, in 2020.Based on the research that she and her husband, Dr. Arthur Aron, had conducted, Dr. Aron says, <\/p>\n
\n\u201cOver twenty percent of people have this amazing, innate trait. A similar percentage is found in over 100 animal species, because high sensitivity is a survival strategy.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 In a recent article, \u201cHow Are Highly Sensitive Men Different?\u201d<\/a> Dr. Aron says, <\/p>\n
\n\u201cAs some of you know, I have a special place in my heart for highly sensitive men. I really do like them. That is part of why I want to see this movie made about them. But what makes them different from other HSPs or other men?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Just as her research findings demonstrated that \u201chigh sensitivity\u201d is a biologically-based trait present not only in human beings but other species as well, she recognizes that \u201cmale sensitivity\u201d also has biological roots. <\/p>\n
\n\u201cFirst, Highly Sensitive Males (HSMs) develop under the influence of male genes, the main factor being testosterone. Gender spectrum aside, almost all HSMs (and men in general) are clearly biologically male.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Dr. Aron goes on to say that these issues are complex and we will learn more over time, yet there are things that we can say now. <\/p>\n
\n\u201cOf course, male and female behavior is such that many men do some things women normally do and vice versa, but hormones have to make HSMs and HSWs different in some ways. How do hormones interact with sensitivity?\u00a0 We do not know yet, but they surely do, and we need to learn about it. Maybe that\u2019s phase two of the research.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Dr. Aron also recognizes the importance of understanding evolutionary realities as we seek to work with this important, biologically, based trait. <\/p>\n
\n\u201cLooking back at the evolution of male behavior we know sensitivity works enough to be present in 20 or even 30% of the population and in equal numbers in men and women. That means HSMs have been successful at reproducing themselves, but how?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 She goes on to say, <\/p>\n
\n\u201cWhen you know that you are highly sensitive, it reframes your life. Knowing that you have this trait will enable you to make better decisions.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Early in my life, I always felt my sensitivity made me different from most of my male peers. Now, as a father of five, grandfather of seventeen, and great grandfather of two, I realize I\u2019m part of a select group of males who have a larger calling in life.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Based on her own research and that of others, she suggests that we look to the unique ways in which men are engaged with their children. <\/p>\n
\n\u201cWe know human males evolved into a strategy found in some birds and in some other mammals, which is staying around after mating to help raise their own young. This method of seeing their DNA go on to the next generation contrasts sharply with simply mating as often as possible with as many females as possible and not staying around after.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 If we weren\u2019t highly sensitive before we had children, being an involved father will definitely bring out the best in us.<\/p>\n
Bottom Line: Highly Sensitive Men Have S.T.Y.L.E.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Dr. Aron gives us a simple acronym to summarize how this unique trait of High Sensitivity manifests itself in men.<\/p>\n
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- S for strategic<\/strong>, or depth of processing in action, since males must act and keep an eye on other males, especially those who are more aggressive.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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- T for testosterone<\/strong>\u2014you cannot explain an HSM by thinking he is more \u201cfeminine.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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- Y\u00a0 for wise yielding<\/strong>\u2014to live to fight (better) another day and in another way, and yielding as in \u201chigh yield\u201d investments.\u00a0 (Yielding can be misperceived as weakness, but it isn\u2019t at all\u2014as when in the martial arts, especially judo [or Aikido], you use the other\u2019s attack to defeat them almost effortlessly while preserving your own mental and physical energy.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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- L\u00a0 for leadership<\/strong>\u2014either among people or becoming leaders in their fields, in the arts, science, business, athletics, or any field they endeavor, using their unique STYLE.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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- E for Empathy<\/strong>, which can be used in close relationships and leadership, but also in knowing, for strategic purposes, what others are up to, sometimes even before they know.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
Examples of Highly Sensitive Males<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 As Dr. Aron notes, there are a lot of examples we could refer to among the more than 1 billion Highly Sensitive Men in the world today. She offers one example from a Netflix series. Here\u2019s what she has to say:<\/p>\n
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cIt\u2019s no secret that I like Star Trek<\/em>, all iterations except the sexist first one, but it\u2019s not so much the science fiction. I like that all the main characters are good people\u2013heroic, kind, etc. I only watch TV while doing my floor exercises every other day, but after watching Star Trek for so many years that I know what happens in every episode, I needed an alternative.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cNetflix kindly showed me other things I might like, given my liking for Star Trek, so I tried Designated Survivor<\/em>.\u00a0 I was instantly hooked.\u00a0 It is a relentless thriller, which I would never normally watch and do not recommend for other HSPs. So why was I watching?<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cThe show is about U.S. politics\u2013this quiet guy, never interested in power or fame, becomes President after EVERYBODY in the government (even the Supreme Court) is killed in a huge bombing during the State of the Union address.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cIt turns out this \u201cdesignated survivor,\u201d played by the actor, Kiefer Sutherland, and many of those around him, inspired by him, are unfailingly good and wise, in every situation, just like the crews of Enterprise. I was hooked, even though I am overstimulated by every episode. It was great to see Highly Sensitive Men in positions of power, even if only in a T.V. drama.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I had watched the series and found engaging from the first episode where the Kiefer Sutherland character stands up to a hot-headed general who wants to take immediate action before he knows all the facts, a great example of healthy male leadership. After having watched Sensitive Men Rising, I had a new appreciation for the importance of sensitive male leadership. We definitely need a U.S. President who displays the quality of high sensitivity.<\/p>\n
\u00a0Sensitive Men Rising: The Peaceful Warriors We Need in the World Today<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 A few of the real-life Highly Sensitive Men I have admired in my life include:<\/p>\n
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- The Dalai Lama<\/li>\n
- Mahatma Gandhi<\/li>\n
- Martin Luther King Jr.<\/li>\n
- Abraham Lincoln<\/li>\n
- Psychologists Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers, and Psychiatrist John Bowlby.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 These are all highly sensitive men who also have had to stand up against oppression with the strength of peaceful warriors. A man who also fits that description is meditation master Ch\u00f6gyam Trungpa. In my book, The Warrior\u2019s Journey Home: Healing Men, Healing the Planet, <\/em>I quote Trungpa who says, <\/p>\n
\n\u201cWarriorship does not refer to making war on others. Aggression is the source of our problems, not the solution. Here the word \u2018warrior\u2019 is taken from the Tibetan, pawo, <\/em>which literally means \u2018one who is brave.\u2019 Warriorship in this context is the tradition of human bravery, or the tradition of fearlessness. Warriorship is not being afraid of who you are.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Where Do We Go From Here?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 We are at a time in human history where Highly Sensitive Men are needed now more than ever. Mark Jamison, Head of Global Clients, VISA, Inc., one of the experts featured in the film Sensitive Men Rising<\/em>, \u00a0says, \u201cThe world is falling apart, political divisiveness is pulling us under, the environment is being destroyed. We need a different model. When people see options that bring hope and sensitivity and a much more integrative approach to problem solving, I see them embracing it with their arms wide open.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 At the end of the film, Dr. Elaine Aron concluds, <\/p>\n
\n\u201cMost of the world\u2019s suffering is due to a certain kind of masculinity. A different kind can change that. Sensitive men are rising. It\u2019s a whole new ball game.\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
You can learn more about the film at sensitivemenrising.org<\/a>.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Actor and Director, Peter Coyote, who hosted the film asked us at the end, \u201cWhat will you do to change the paradigm?\u201d<\/em> My answer is to join with like-minded and sensitive-souled men and women to make change for good.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Come visit me on my website, https:\/\/menalive.com\/<\/a> and check out our new non-profit, www.MoonshotForMankind.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n